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The JollyDI abuse Case ft. Yumehari (My Thoughts)
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To start, I am aware of what I will be getting myself into. But I will not and do not tolerate those who let problems build up when they could clearly handle before they become a disaster.
Dearest yumehari ,
I have a great respect for you. I have enjoyed what you've created and I will continue to enjoy existence no matter what.I am upset that you've had "abuse" thrown your way. I say "abuse" because I feel it is not a correct word to describe the situation that has occured for roughly the past 2 years. But I simply must say, You misunderstood Jolly.
I have gone over the screenshots you have shared, the notes you've put into the descriptions. (I have commented on 2 if I remember correctly but just because I am annoying picky about grammar and such) Back to what I really want to say. Jolly a.k.a. Spindelle had been one of your close friends for 2 years. You had vented to her before and asked for help. And in return she gave you the help that she could. She gave you the advice she had lived by for years hoping you too could use it.
It may have seemed harsh to you at the time, but it was some of the best advice for getting over problems you face both regularly and irregularly. I understand that part of the reason Jolly banned you from Endle was so that you could step back. Think more on what your problems are. Having a get away is fine, but if you've done that with every problem you faced, it would've back-fired sooner or later. You should not run from problems are can and should face. Running can only get you so far until you run out of stamina. Sure, you might have needed a break from your stresses, and I am also very concerned that you needed to spend a night in the hospital for safe recovery, but that shouldn't excuse that you did not address any rising problems with both Carify and toolatetoreturn when you noticed them.
"You will NEVER get better if you keep sitting on your ass and feeling sorry for yourself"
Get up, dammit. Stand on your feet and walk.
"now you can either sit there and make others feel like shit because youre not allowed to feel good and feel jealous of others because of what they have"
You've got perfectly fine legs, why weren't you walking?
"or you can open up your fucking eyes and see that theres people who give a fuck about you"
Those people included Carify and Dierinks, other friends you've stuck with for years as well. I do not know their names but I know for a fact that you always had a healthy group of friends on the edge of their seats waiting for you to say something.
I've had close family hospitalized for how sick they felt, for ho much ain they were feeling because their mental state was crippling up and being torn to little shreds. But they had reasons, real reasons. They didn't wait, they addressed it as soon as possible with evidence. They took their problems seriously and they relied on others they knew for years, they relied on me too. They knew what would keep them safe, stay close to a family member or hang out with a nurse in the emergency room.
*ahem* From what I understood, you were relying too much on your friends. Expecting them to lift you up off the ground, cut loose those shackles you let get around your ankles. You needed to help them help you, life is a two-way road with a lot of pot-holes and stop signs. And I guess you let a pebble dig into the group to create another pot-hole, and you didn't alert anyone to install a stop sign either. It pains me to see you victimize yourself, twisting what help/advice Jolly was giving you. She knew exactly where you were coming from and she got her self out of that. She put up with a bunch of shit in her family and online. She became strong but not without people to help her.
"i dont want apologies yume. i can go without those." "you know what you need to do"
She was right and you weren't listening.
"that just it.. i don't know anymore i don't even know who i am anymore"
Yes you do, you're pitying yourself and putting yourself even further down. Yume sweet heart, you are refusing help. Everyone wants attention but you were just plain giving into your selfish needs.
From your post Good Riddance.
"I showered them with gifts of art."
"Went through hell to make sure they were happy."
"One time i had to kill one oc i loved to death, to make sure they were pleased."
No one said you had to, you were that one that forced that on yourself. You were not the friend you thought you were being. As far as I know, they didn't not directly or even hint towards their want to make you do anything for them. The unstable relationship was honestly your fault. You unfortunately caught yourself up in a mess of trying to please people for your own benefit. And that I understood, until I realized that my labor to make some one happy is worthless. no one should require anyone to shower them in gifts.
I in no way mean for any of this to hurt you. This is to inform you on what Jolly was trying to share with you. This is to help you better understand what Jolly was meaning for you to learn. This is to help you focus YOUR actions and not force negative attention onto Jolly or her gf Dierinks. Not only that but this is me trying to help you, understand you, and understand others who have had to deal with this "abuse".
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Like or not I will cover TTSnim's story, as well as others stories either requested or I decided to make a journal myself. And I'll say now that I do not agree with what happened on her family-friendly server.
It is WRONG to wait until the very last moment. Get proactive in handle your problems or leave. Laziness will not be tolerated.
If the people involved in this story have an complaints, please address them in a comment or note. Noting me would be preferred.
I am not the most experienced in words but if I could inform people in any other way that would work a hell of a lot better, let me know. I've got a lot of things on my mind.
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I have read both the journal and the paragraphs of comments down below.
All I can say that I am happy for the movement because it did do one thing that I (and zoe I feel too) of doing. Helping Di and Jolly see the harm they have caused and encouraged them to reach out those they have hurt. That was the sole focus of the movement. Many, including yume and myself have spoken up. I am just happy to hear down the grape vine from others that those two girls have heard the outcries and reached out to them. Of course getting a couple things muddled up but ehn?
Anyways I would say I got to know yume for about 3-5 months of knowing her. Things were amazing at first and then discontent, miscommunication, my obliviousness (I am a dunce at times), and inner turmoil formed. But before all that when I got to know Yume a little bit, aggression is not helpful for her, just like for most people. It was not the appropriate method for her, especially when knowing tidbits of her personal life. Forcing someone to do one thing (in yume's case a vacation for her mental health when she really needed support) proved it was not helpful. When Zoe told me he had a feeling to go talk to yume I was wary because of turmoil in the past. But when he informed me that yume was on suicidal thoughts, you bet I threw that wariness out the window. She was in desperate help and in my words and point of view, she probably felt abandoned. And I know that pain as well...and I also felt the pain of how it feels from the results of losing someone to suicide who thinks and believes they are alone.
If someone ever feels like they are at ends on not knowing how to help someone, dont force someone into something. It generally worsen things. Instead keep trying and maybe ask others to help out. If not perhaps say the truth that you dont know how to help but you are still there for them for support.
It is a long tiresome road, but friendship is a irreplaceable thing, just like with compassion. <3
All I can say that I am happy for the movement because it did do one thing that I (and zoe I feel too) of doing. Helping Di and Jolly see the harm they have caused and encouraged them to reach out those they have hurt. That was the sole focus of the movement. Many, including yume and myself have spoken up. I am just happy to hear down the grape vine from others that those two girls have heard the outcries and reached out to them. Of course getting a couple things muddled up but ehn?
Anyways I would say I got to know yume for about 3-5 months of knowing her. Things were amazing at first and then discontent, miscommunication, my obliviousness (I am a dunce at times), and inner turmoil formed. But before all that when I got to know Yume a little bit, aggression is not helpful for her, just like for most people. It was not the appropriate method for her, especially when knowing tidbits of her personal life. Forcing someone to do one thing (in yume's case a vacation for her mental health when she really needed support) proved it was not helpful. When Zoe told me he had a feeling to go talk to yume I was wary because of turmoil in the past. But when he informed me that yume was on suicidal thoughts, you bet I threw that wariness out the window. She was in desperate help and in my words and point of view, she probably felt abandoned. And I know that pain as well...and I also felt the pain of how it feels from the results of losing someone to suicide who thinks and believes they are alone.
If someone ever feels like they are at ends on not knowing how to help someone, dont force someone into something. It generally worsen things. Instead keep trying and maybe ask others to help out. If not perhaps say the truth that you dont know how to help but you are still there for them for support.
It is a long tiresome road, but friendship is a irreplaceable thing, just like with compassion. <3